How travel affects mood, stress, energy, and emotional health
Why traveling together can bring us closer—and sometimes drive us crazy
How expectations, personality, and mindset shape the way we experience a trip
Why some hotel stays become unforgettable—and what psychology tells us about the memories we bring home.
We've stayed in a lot of hotels over the years. Some were luxurious, some were practical, and some were simply a place to collapse after a long day of sightseeing. But when I recently asked my three kids which hotels they remembered most, their answers surprised me.
In My House, Fall Starts September 1.
September 1 arrives and I'm ready. Pumpkin-spice coffee. Chocolate-chip pumpkin bread. Pumpkin scones. Pumpkin butter. You get the idea.
Then come the other signs of the season: amber and cardamom candles, hot apple cider, mulled wine, Oktoberfest celebrations, cooler evenings, bonfires and cozy flannel blankets.
The house gets its seasonal makeover, too: burnt orange, golden yellow and rust-colored décor, faux fall wreaths and garlands, walnut accents, pumpkins and gourds, and an array of mums for the front porch.
Travel anxiety is more common than most people realize. If the thought of boarding a plane makes your heart race, your palms sweat, or your mind spiral into worst-case scenarios, you are not weak — you are human.
Flying anxiety can look different for everyone. For some, it’s fear of turbulence or mechanical failure. For others, it’s claustrophobia, loss of control, or even fear of embarrassment. The intensity can range from mild unease to full-blown panic attacks.
You love each other. You were excited for this trip. So why are you arguing in the rental car about the GPS voice?
Vacation was supposed to bring you closer. Instead, you’re mildly irritated before you’ve even checked in. Somewhere between baggage claim and “I thought you said turn left,” you find yourself wondering, What is wrong with us?
If you’ve ever fought on vacation and worried your relationship is secretly unraveling over sunscreen and restaurant reservations, let me reassure you: nothing is wrong. This is normal. This is psychological. And most importantly, this is predictable.
Look—I get it. We don’t pull travel inspiration out of thin air. We get it from beautifully curated sources: travel books, blogs, journalists, influencers, hotel marketing, and, of course, social media. What we’re shown is the highlight-reel version of a trip. Perfect weather. Lovely accommodations. On-time flights. Smiling families. Children who appear to have never argued over snacks or legroom.
But here’s the reality: that version of travel isn’t real life. It’s an idealized, carefully edited simulation of it. Real trips include rainy days, traffic jams, delayed or canceled flights, closed attractions, and very ordinary, very human travel companions.
Ever get back from a trip and feel like you need a vacation from your vacation? Guilty — and it took me years of traveling to understand why.
How to plan trips that support how you actually feel—not how you think you should feel
We tend to plan travel around logistics: time off, flight prices, school calendars, bucket lists. What we rarely ask—before clicking “book now”—is a much simpler question:
How am I actually feeling right now?
As a clinical psychologist, I’m careful with language around “healing” and “therapy.” Travel is not therapy. It doesn’t replace mental health treatment, and it doesn’t magically resolve anxiety, burnout, or emotional pain.
And yet—anyone who has ever exhaled a little deeper the moment they arrived somewhere new knows there’s something real happening.
Traveling with teenagers isn’t just different from traveling with little kids — it’s an entirely different season of family life. Our daughter Callan is now 21, our son Jake is 19, and Max is 16, and somewhere along the way we realized that the trips that worked beautifully when they were younger no longer fit who they are now.
They want independence, adrenaline, food that feels intentional, and experiences that don’t feel designed for kids. They want late nights — but not forced ones. Energy — but with an exit plan. And when it comes to New Year’s Eve, they want it to feel like a real celebration, not something they’re tagging along to.
Over the years, five destinations have consistently risen to the top for us. Not because they’re flashy, but because they allow New Year’s Eve — and the days around it — to unfold naturally with teenagers and young adults.
What psychology tells us about wanderlust, curiosity, and why some people can't stop dreaming about their next adventure.
Some people dream of exploring ancient cities, tasting unfamiliar foods, and visiting every continent. Others are perfectly happy returning to the same favorite beach every summer, or staying home and enjoying the house they’re still paying for.
And then there are people like me, whose travel bucket lists grow considerably faster than their vacation budgets.